About Me
From Software Development to People Development.
For over 27 years, I worked in IT, developing and maintaining software for the financial and insurance sectors. However, life had other plans for me.
After experiencing deep personal challenges and a perfect storm of changes - the loss of a parent to dementia, suffering from panic attacks and burnout, and facing job redundancy - I found myself at a crossroads. With time to reflect, I realized that my career in IT was no longer fulfilling.
I had always been drawn to helping others. Becoming a Life Coach gives me the opportunity to make a real difference - one person at a time.
My Purpose: Helping Others Thrive
My journey has taught me that change, while often unexpected and uncalled for, can lead to growth and transformation. Now, my mission is to help others navigate through their own paths of change with clarity, confidence, and purpose.
Let's move forward - together.
I am a proud gay Canadian man of Chinese descent. For over 20 years, I’ve been happily partnered with my better half, Michael (yes, another Michael) - a Canadian Brit. Growing up in a large, close-knit family, I’ve always appreciated the warmth of community.
I have a natural talent for critical thinking, problem-solving, and an impressive memory for 1980s pop culture trivia (shoutout to Casey Kasem and the American Top 40, back in the day). And if there is a karaoke mic around, chances are I’ll be on stage! 🎤
My Experiences
Changing career later in life wasn’t easy. I sought guidance from career counselors, expecting them to tell me what I should do - what career to pursue, what I might be good at based on my experience, skills, and personality. However, we didn’t get very far. Looking back, I now realize I wasn’t in the right mindset to be helped - I had taken my own voice out of the equation!
At the time, I had convinced myself that a career change wasn’t possible, and I had all the fear-based excuses to back it up, spelled out in BIG, BOLD CAPITAL LETTERS.
So what changed?
I let go of the fear. Instead, I focused on what would bring me happiness and fulfillment, and not what was the simplest or quickest path I could take. I took a leap of faith and I’ve never been happier or more at peace.
“I want to be the Life Coach I wish I had with me when I was trying to change career.”
Having gone through this journey myself, I understand the uncertainty, fear, and obstacles that can hold us back. As your Life Coach, I’ll partner with you - helping you explore freely and fully so you can discover what you truly want, how to get there, and how to make it last.
And if something stands in your way? We’ll work through it together.
I Have Come Back Stronger
I’ve navigated a perfect storm of personal upheaval and uncertainty - losing a parent to dementia while working a job that was in a constant state of change including the dissolution of my support system. The instability wore me down and took a serious toll on my mental and physical health.
At work, I had always managed to adapt, push through, and make things work - so why wasn’t it working anymore?
I spiraled into crippling self-doubt and paralyzing anxiety. Even the simplest decisions felt impossible. I unknowingly became trapped in survival mode - just getting through each day intact, but no longer truly living or thriving; I was just existing.
But here’s what I’ve learned: It does get better. But it takes time, space, and self-compassion.
I hadn’t given myself the grace to step back and reflect on what was happening to me. I tried to plow through at work because it worked in the past and that’s all I knew. I ignored the warning signs until it was too late: I burned out. Everyone else’s needs were more important than my own, at the cost of my own well-being.
As your Life Coach, I will help you:
✔ Identify what truly matters to you
✔ Create space to reflect without pressure or judgment
✔ Clarify your priorities and address what may be holding you back
Our sessions are a safe, confidential space where you can explore your thoughts and feelings freely—without fear, without judgment, and without pressure.
You are not alone in this. Let’s work together to help you move forward.
Authentic Identity
Growing up as part of the LGBTQIA2S+ community, I know firsthand the struggle of hiding one’s true self - the deep desire to be authentic while fearing judgment and rejection. Balancing who I truly was with the fear of being "found out" and rejected/abandoned shaped much of my early life.
As your Life Coach, I am here to listen and support you.
If you are facing a similar journey, I will help you navigate your path toward self-acceptance and living with authenticity. Everyone’s story is unique, and so is the journey to embracing your true self.
I will partner with you - offering a safe, supportive space to explore, grow, and achieve what truly matters to you.
You deserve to live as your authentic self - fully and unapologetically.
Recognizing Limiting Beliefs
Growing up in a traditional Chinese household, emotions were rarely discussed. Conversations focused on results, not feelings, and success was often measured by comparison to others. This left little room for self-expression, personal growth, or emotional intelligence.
I understand the long-lasting effects of emotional neglect - the unspoken expectations, the limiting beliefs unknowingly carried into adulthood; how our learned beliefs somehow became “facts” because of how engrained and automatic they have become.
As your Life Coach, I can help you:
✔ Identify and move past potential limiting beliefs
✔ Explore what truly matters to you - without judgment
✔ Create a safe space for self-discovery and personal growth
These experiences have shaped who I am today - someone who is always learning, growing, and becoming more comfortable in his own skin. They’ve also fueled my passion for healing, sharing, and helping others do the same.
