I am an out and proud gay Canadian man of Chinese descent. I’ve been happily partnered with my better half, Michael (yes, another Michael) - a Canadian Brit - for over 2 decades. Growing up in a large, close-knit family, I’ve always appreciated the warmth of community.
I have a natural talent for critical thinking, problem-solving, and an impressive memory for 1980s pop culture trivia (shoutout to Casey Kasem and the American Top 40, back in the day). And if there is a karaoke mic around, chances are I’ll be on stage! 🎤
I’ve also had a quiet curiosity about people: What lights them up, what weighs them down, and what helps them move forward.
About Me
Going from Software Development to People Development.
For over 27 years, I worked in IT developing and maintaining software for the financial and insurance sectors.
After experiencing deep personal challenges and, what I call a perfect storm of changes - the loss of a parent to dementia, suffering from panic attacks and burnout, and facing job redundancy - I found myself at a crossroad. I realized that my career in IT was no longer fulfilling to me.
I had always been drawn to helping others. Becoming a Life Coach gives me the opportunity to make a real difference - one person at a time.
My Purpose: Helping Others Thrive
My journey has taught me that change, while often unexpected and uncalled for, can lead to growth and transformation. Now, my mission is to help others navigate through their own paths of change with clarity, confidence, and purpose.
Let's move forward - together.
My Experiences
Changing careers later in life wasn’t easy. I had envisioned my path unfolding a certain way - and when it didn’t, I felt lost. I turned to career counselors, hoping they’d tell me what roles I’d be good at based on my skills and personality. But we didn’t get far. Looking back, I realize I had taken my own voice out of the equation.
I had convinced myself that change wasn’t possible. Fear had the mic - loud, bold, and persuasive.
What shifted? Firstly, I ignored the inner voice that was screaming, “You’re too old! It’s too late!” I was then able to stop chasing the quickest fix and started listening to what would truly bring me fulfillment. I let go of fear and took a leap of faith. That choice changed everything.
Now, I coach others through the same kind of journey - not by giving answers, but by helping them hear their own. I want to be the Life Coach I wish I’d had: Someone who partners with you to explore what you truly want, how to get there, and how to make it last.
And if something stands in your way? We’ll meet it together.
I Have Come Back Stronger
I’ve weathered a perfect storm of personal upheaval - losing a parent to dementia while working in a job that was constantly shifting, including the loss of my support system. The instability wore me down and took a serious toll on both my mental and physical health.
I had always been the one who adapted, pushed through, and made things work. So when that stopped working, I was stunned.
I spiraled into crippling self-doubt and paralyzing anxiety. Even the simplest decisions felt impossible. I unknowingly slipped into survival mode - just getting through each day, no longer truly living or thriving.
Here’s what I’ve learned: It does get better, but it takes time, space, and self-compassion.
I hadn’t given myself the grace to pause and reflect. I kept pushing through because that’s what had worked before. I ignored the warning signs until it was too late: I burned out. Everyone else’s needs came first - at the cost of my own well-being.
As your Life Coach, I will help you:
✔ Identify what truly matters to you
✔ Create space to reflect without pressure or judgment
✔ Clarify your priorities and gently explore what may be holding you back
Our sessions are a safe, confidential space where you can explore your thoughts and feelings freely - without fear, without judgment, and without pressure.
You are not alone. Let’s move forward together.
Authentic Identity
Growing up within the LGBTQIA2S+ community, I know the quiet ache of hiding one’s truth - the longing to live authentically while fearing judgment, rejection, or abandonment. That tension shaped much of my life: Trying to be who I was while protecting myself from being “found out.”
As your Life Coach, I’m here to listen - deeply, without judgment - and to support you in reclaiming your voice.
If you’re navigating a similar journey, I’ll walk beside you as you move toward self-acceptance and a life that reflects who you truly are. Everyone’s story is unique, and so is the path to living with authenticity.
Together, we’ll create a safe, affirming space to explore, grow, and pursue what truly matters to you.
You deserve to live as your authentic self - fully, freely, and unapologetically.
Recognizing Limiting Beliefs
Growing up in a traditional Chinese household, emotions were rarely discussed. Conversations centered on results, not feelings - and success was often measured by comparison. There was little room for self-expression, personal growth, or emotional intelligence.
I understand the long-lasting effects of emotional neglect: The unspoken expectations, the limiting beliefs we unknowingly carry into adulthood; how those beliefs can feel like “facts” simply because they have become automatic.
As your Life Coach, I will help you:
✔ Identify and move beyond limiting beliefs
✔ Explore what truly matters to you - without judgment
✔ Create a safe space for reflection, self-discovery, and growth
These experiences have shaped who I am today: Someone who is always learning, growing, and becoming more comfortable in his own skin. They’ve also fueled my passion for healing, sharing, and helping others do the same.
If something you’ve read here resonates, I invite you to take the next step - whether that’s booking a free discovery consultation, reaching out with a question, or exploring the FAQ. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.